Bf And Video Game Problems?
I have been dating my boyfriend for 7 months. I always feel like I am second and not to a family member, or person but to games. This happened 2 weeks ago I always call him before I leave my house to give him the heads up. I pull up to his house call him to tell him I am outside and he goes I am not even ready and I hear like shooting in the background. Then when he gets in the car he asks if we can go to best buy for a cord for his xbox! Today I arrive at his house and I am sitting on his couch he doesn’t even greet be because he is on addictinggames.com. Then tonight I lay down next to him he kisses me and then is like oh your brother left his DS and puts it on. I just cannot stand it I love him a lot I really do. I just feel like I am dating a 13 year old boy at times and I Have no idea how to confront it without a huge fight. HELP!!
Tell him how you feel. Let him know that you would appreciate a barrier between guy time and girlfriend time. Maybe try playing some of his games or finding a video game alternative that he might like. With a little imagination you might be able to find something that the two of you both enjoy. I understand some video games are gruesome and really tough. Have you tried playing guitar hero with him. My boyfriend and I love that game.
Let me first say that I can totally understand this problem because I was that guy 2 years ago. I will say that you have to be very sensitive in dealing with this because it is likely that his game does mean a lot more to him than you. It isn’t that he thinks your aweful but a lot of times that world just seems more interesting. I think you’ve got 3 options. The first is to join him. Whatever game he is playing you start playing so that together you spend time and it’s not something he’s dividing his time in since you do it together. If you absolutely hate video games but you have a good relationship apart from the video games then you’ve got to find a way to calmly tell him that you want his attention and feel like the video games have caused him to space out on your relationship. Talk about other things that maybe you two could do together that he might find fun. Maybe take some class together…dancing, cooking, join a athletic team if he’s athletic at all. If you don’t wanna join in and he doesn’t want to break away to do other things with you then you are faced with the last but unavoidable choice of ending it. It’s a drag, u could have had something amazing but there is nothing you can do if he won’t compromise. It took my amazing girlfriend leaving me and a few other low notes in my life to wake me up and realize that I didn’t like the way my life was headed. I hope it turns out different for you guys. Good luck!
I think you should confront him about it. Tell him how he’s not giving you the attention you deserve and how he’s neglecting you to play games. You need to communicate with him to solve his problem. He won’t think it’s a problem if you don’t bring it up. So inform him of it and solve it together.
Confront him about it. Tell him how you feel about it and your views on how it impacts your relationship. If things don’t improve or the improve then relapse, try again, or if he isn’t worth it, dump him. Don’t be with someone that won’t sacrifice something like video games for your happiness.
All people have their hobbies, however extreme they may be.
Confront him about it, tell him how you feel.
If he loves you too, he’ll at least suppress it while you’re around.
People should always go before any material objects, like games or electronics.
really, it depends on the games…i can understand games like war games making you mad…but maybe you should see if he can get a game for you two to play together…even if you don’t like them at all…you can both make a sacrifice to find common ground?
i would tell him that you really like him and that you guys should go to a movie or something and make sure he doesn’t bring a Nintendo or something. Then you guys won’t get into a fight and everyones happy!
I know what you mean, my husband is the same way. you just need to tell him, if you loves you he needs to put you first then the video games.
Tell him straight up “It’s either me or the games”. He should have time for both of you. Be stern while you say it, but not mean, he’ll respect you more.
He said it best, tell him its ok to play games, just don’t let it overtake the relationship, he could be missing out on something or someone if it goes too far…
well if it aint WOW you wont here *hold on im almost done running kara and its on heroic and i dont want to die bc i get a great drop from the boss so chill*
i would personally just tell him, calmly and nicely, how your feeling about it. pretty much exactly the same as what you said on the question.
goodluck
(: he seems annoying
Date a MAN, baby, yeah groovy.
talk to him about it… and on occasion, play games w/ him too. reach a middle ground
good luck!
Tell him how you feel.
DB
If he has online games delete his accounts.
or use that as a threat.
hahahaha
I completely know where your coming from. I’ve been dating my boyfriend for 11 months and he’s a completely video game addict. For us, I just talked to him. I was near tears over this one day (I’d been having a bad day and then he was ignoring me. boys – oblivious) and he asked me what was wrong. I explained that, though I understand that he loves video games, I felt second to them. We talked about it and now he’s way more aware. He bought some wireless controllers so that he could still hold me and cuddle while gaming and he tries to do something of my choice at least once a week. And I’m trying to learn how to game and he’s actually having a lot of fun teaching me.
Basically you need to sit him down and, without sugar coating anything, explain how he’s making you feel. Offer up some compromises (he might like teaching you a game and maybe you’ll introduce him into something new he might like). I thought it would end in a big fight too, but he realised he was really hurting me and didn’t want to do that so we compromised. Good luck.
Put your interests to such extreems and spend as much real time with him as he does you. Pretty much he will fade away and wonder why his gf left. It is because you did the same to him. Maybe then he will understand and you will finally be happy with someone that loves you.
I love video games as much as the other guys but there is more to life than games. I have that game addict personality too. Tv addict as well. I no longer watch tv. I play video games sometimes and have limited amounts of them to choose from. I try to live life and be a good man to myself, others and the special female I am with.
You need to make sure that you are getting the attention you deserve, which it seems you are clearly not.
Offer him a choice: he can give you his attention and receive yours back, or he can give the games attention and get nothing back from them (except perhaps a momentary adrenaline rush, etc.–NOT WORTH IT).
There is a value and maturity issue here that he needs to be made aware of. You are definitely worth more than a silly video game, so make sure he knows that you feel neglected.
Be sure not to insult his hobby though, because as a guy myself, I can understand the necessity of indulging in maybe more than a little bit of some game time. It can be a very personal thing, but again, this is about YOU not the games.
Figure out what he values and wants more–whether he’s a man or a boy.
Honestly I hate breaking it to you but he’s not gonna change this habbit anytime soon and you for sure wont be able to change that about him. Once a guy is into his games thats it, its only him thats going to get tired of that lifestyle…not someone forcing him to get tired of it. Either you accept the way he is and maybe try to find places to hang and things to do where videos games arent always there
…or dump him (but Im sure since you love him youll try to work around this which is good. never try to change someone).
I’d say tell him how you feel. do it nicely and don’t try to act like your making him choose. or don’t try to act like your imtimidating him. just try to be calm. lk I said I’d say to tell him how you feel and maybe just say lk “hey I know you love to play games and thats fine with me but sometimes i feel like you put a game before me.” or what you could also do is maybe once in a while try to play a game with him…you may not like it but you can sacriface that for him. and I’m sure I’ll love it but he might get what your trying to say and maybe he’ll try to give more of his attention to you.
Give up trying my husband plays video games all the time too. I have learned to do my own thing too, we have stuff that we both do for entertainment but set times in which we watch a movie together or go out. but at home there is nothing to do. Maybe tell him how you feel about him doing that, and if you only see each other a couple times a week he should be willing to give you his full attention. I don’t see a problem in stopping by best buy if you are out that way. It would be like you grabbing tampons if you needed them while you were at a department store or something.